So this blog is way over due. I was actually hoping to have a video blog done. To be completely honest the only reason I have not is because I barely have time to do my hair let alone put on make-up for a video. Since the story is way too cool not to share, here we go…
As most of you know my due dates were all over the place. Two sonograms at the OB gave a date of date of September 9th and the Hospital sonogram gave me a date of August 28 (which matched my last menstrual cycle)…needless to say…it is all up in the air. It’s usually difficult to determine the time of conception if you are in a relationship and not writing down every time you get frisky. We had been dating for years and living together for years. I calculated closer to Early September because I think the actual conception was while Papa Bear and I were on vacation after the Thanksgiving Holiday. I saw the rainbow in the sky that I have been seeing for our entire relationship. You can kinda see it reflecting off the clouds in the photo below. Papa Bear would tell me later that he saw the same rainbow the day before Kihre was born.
My intention was to have the baby in my oasis on the back porch. I had everything ready for his arrival: the birth tub, the sheers, lots of potted plants, mats & everything you could possibly need for a comfortable birth. Everything was set and ready to go by August 21st…now we waited…and waited…and tried lots of other stuff. Sad part is that even though I didn’t birth in my oasis, I could see it from my actual birth location.
As all moms know…the baby comes when the baby wants to come. “Normal” Gestation for human infants is anywhere between 38-42 weeks. This is important because when having a home birth, the midwife is only allowed to deliver in that 4 week time frame. She stands the chance of losing her license if she delivers out side of that time. This because of possible complications to mother and baby that can arise when the baby comes too early or too late. So to be safe, we went with the September 9th date to make sure that we “complied”. Although we knew it could be anytime around the two dates.
To help tone my uterus for my lil guys birthing time I drank Eden’s Balance Feminine Toner Tea. I sat on the balance ball. I saw the chiropractor 2x a week. I never reclined in a chair. I always slept on my left side…blah, blah, blah…everything you are supposed to do to help the baby get into position & stay in the perfect LOA (Left Occiput Anterior) position.
I did have to discontinue the Feminine Toner Tea because my body is very sensitive to the Red Raspberry and caused me to start losing my mucus plug at 32 weeks. This isn’t abnormal but isn’t uncommon either. I continued the rest of my routine and managed to keep him in the right position from week 35 to 40…
That’s right…he was still in there at 40 weeks. So what does this mean for mom & baby. Well mom is probably really, really ready to meet her little one & really, really ready to pop. I know I was, I felt like every day I was putting on more pounds and craving more cake. As for baby it means that the vernix caseosa (cottage cheesy substance that forms in week 18 and protects the baby’s skin from the amniotic fluid) starts to come off and the baby’s skin is no longer protected. This will cause the baby to come out “cleaner” when delivered & with dry flaking skin. The earlier the baby is born, the more vernix will still be on the baby. Below is a picture of a baby born at 38 weeks gestation with most of its vernix still in tact. You will see in later pics of Kihre how “clean” he came out compared to the baby pictured below.
Your little one is also getting heavier & longer. Don’t worry though, he is just as happy as can be. Just pay attention to movements, be aware that they will be smaller because he has no space left to move. He should still be moving.
At approximately 41 weeks I was ready to have the baby by myself in the middle of my bedroom floor if necessary to avoid the hospital. I decided to start holistic methods of labor induction since going to the hospital was not an option. After getting the ok from my Midwife, I visited my Acupuncturist, Dr. Choi, for an acupuncture induction. I can barely understand the guy but I love the results I get everytime I see him…this time was no different. I went to the office around 12pm on September 11th and had the procedure and went home to continue circles on my balance ball.
By 6pm I started to have pressure waves (contractions), I would only describe them as medium on the intensity scale. They were 30 minutes apart but what I thought were intense enough to call my birthing team. I had my Midwife, Doula on standby & two of my girlfriends at the house for comfort. I was ready to get this baby out! By this time Papa Bear & I had not been together for 4 months and we had decided to only peacefully co-parent. For reasons that I will not get into in this blog I wasn’t planning on him being there for the delivery so I didn’t tell him that I was trying to induce naturally. Little did I know, Kihre had other plans…because he waited until Papa Bear got back from his business trip to arrive.
By 12pm the pressure waves were still 30 minutes apart & I was exhausted. Since I was able, I decided to get some rest and see what happened. By 11am the next morning they had stopped completely and my lower back was killing me. My Doula, Amy with Rosebud Doula, informed me that this was because the baby had adjusted his position and was no longer in the optimal position.
The best advice that my Doula gave me: When you feel pressure waves in your lower back, simply lift up your tummy firmly and tuck your pelvis. It helps the baby position himself easier. Thank you for this bit of info Amy! It actually ended up starting my birthing time but I am getting ahead of myself.
I had only a few pressure waves over the next day. Then SURPRISE! On Sunday morning guess who was watching TV on the couch when I woke…yep…Papa Bear. I was kind of fuming that news of my coming birthing time had gotten out. I am however very glad that it did, but I will get to why shortly. The rest of the day I only had approximately 5-7 pressure waves, all only mildly intense.
My next course of action was to see the Chiropractor, Jill with Momentum Chiropractic on Liberia Ave (love my Chiropractor). Chiropractic adjustments are known to help the baby get into the LOA position. I figured even if it didn’t get him out, it would surely help put my rib back into place (he kicked it every day for the last 6 weeks he was in there…owe). My appointment with Jill was at 11am. I had my normal adjustment and went home to wait again.
By 4pm there was no change so I decided to lay down and take a nap. I remember thinking that nothing was going to get this kid out. I woke up abruptly at 4:48 and headed to the bathroom, which was my most unfavorite place in the world since I spent to so much time peeing. I went potty as usual but this time there was a huge glob of mucus plug, not streaks or even spots like in the previous weeks. Anytime now I thought. Still no strong pressure waves. I washed my hands and headed out to my bedroom. I looked at the clock and it was 4:50.
Right then I had the strongest pressure wave that I had had so far. I lifted my belly & tucked my pelvis. Immediately his head locked & loaded into position. All I could do was drop down to my hands & knees…and crawl to my balance ball. I laid my head on my ball for support and looked at the clock again…4:55 uhoh…another wave was coming….”OHHHHHHHHH, AHHHHHHH, OHHHHHHHHHH” were the only sounds I could get out.
By this time it was 5:20 and I remember thinking oh god…how will anyone know what is going on if I can’t even say anything…My oldest son was in his bedroom right next to mine and Papa Bear was in the living room. I figured my best bet was to yell my son’s name as loud as I could. Luckily he got Papa Bear before he came to me.
I managed say with labored breathing “Call Parveen, It’s Time, Now!”.
Parveen is my Midwife with Birth Traditions Midwifery. I knew by that time it was already way past time to call. Luckily he had heard the intensity of my moans & had already sprung into action calling all the numbers on the call list. Unfortunately he called the Midwifes home number and not her cell phone. Luckily he did get through to the Doula who was able to contact the Midwife and another backup Doula, this was all just in the nick of time since my the birth was progressing along very quickly.
The whole time my awesome & amazing oldest boy was sitting by my side with a cold wash cloth and holding my hand. He was so calm and I am so proud that he was able to see the things that he did and still remain clam & in control. He was a great help.
At 5:45 my water broke. I still had on my yoga pants when I felt this huge gush that in my mind sounded like a gigantic balloon popping. I later asked the kiddo if he heard it and he said no he didn’t hear anything. I guess it was the sensation that gave me the impression of the noise. By this time I was in a totally different place than anyone else in the room. I could feel that it was almost time to start pushing. Here we were…go time and it was still just the boys & I…that was the only terrifying part. Especially since Papa Bear was frantic even though he really did try to remain calm. I was fine with the thought of getting him out by myself (I had to do that anyways) but none of us were prepared for what to do once the baby actually came out.
Around 6:00 I had to push, it couldn’t wait any longer. I reached my hand around and felt his head along with some other gooey substance that I am glad that I did not see (later they said it was just membrane from the amniotic sac). Papa Bear had washed his hands & arms and was ready to delivery the baby himself. He later told me that he wanted to put me in the car and take me to the ER. Hah…good luck getting a pregnant woman into a car in the late stages of labor, I couldn’t even make it to my back porch.
I recall thinking how lucky that I had previously given birth and remembered the sensation of burning when you push and your skin is not ready. I had to slow down even though the sensation to push was so strong. This is what prevented me from tearing my perineum.
All I could say was “PLEASE, SOMEBODY HELP ME!”. I was so worried that Papa Bear would have to catch my lil guy when he popped out. Although he has lots of birth experience it has never been this hands on. He would say later that this one will go down in the record books as the most exciting, fascinating & frightening.
One more push and his head was out. By this time I was swimming in the euphoric cocktail of hormones that were being produced by my body. This was something that I had not felt when I gave birth the first time. Unfortunately when medically induced and on epidural the body isn’t able to create the correct mix of hormones to put you in LaLa land. I was in a place of complete Vulnerability & total Power. It is a feeling that is very hard to describe and I recommend that every woman experience it if she is able…Very Empowering!
At this time the Doula arrived. The timing couldn’t have been more perfect because the baby’s hand was stuck on my pelvis. She had to insert her fingers to help it move through. That was most possibly the most intense part of the birthing time outside of the initial burning. Once she moved his hand, I pushed and he slid right out at 6:22.
By this time I was exhausted. I had been on my hands & knees for the entire 82 minutes. This was the moment that I actually noticed that the Doula was not Amy and a back up named Marilyn. Luckily it was Marilyn since she was well versed in how to get his little hand out of the way. The delivery could have been much longer had she not been there. I had to apologize to Marilyn since I called her Amy the entire time. Told you I was in LaLa Land.
The Midwife arrived shortly after he came out. It was a great relief for me when she arrived. I knew everything was fine but having her there to check everything gave me peace of mind. I don’t remember who but Papa Bear or the Midwife passed my little guy to me under my legs as I sat on the floor. It was the first time I had rested and the first time I saw him…the most precious little old soul. It is amazing how you fall in love immediately and any pain that you were in melts away. I held him in my arms and stared down on this little perfect combination of me and his father.
I moved from the floor to the bed with assistance from Papa Bear. I wasn’t sore or in pain just very tired so I did need help. My little guy was still connected to me for a while as the placenta continued to beat. I held him for what seems like 30 minutes but time had stopped for me so I don’t know if that is accurate. It was so nice to take my time with our first introduction. My oldest had been taken from my arms minutes after being born and the placenta cut while still beating. I will get into the importance in another blog…
After the placenta stopped beating, Papa Bear had the honor of cutting the cord.
He got to hold the baby for the first time when It was time for me to deliver the placenta. He is so proud to have a son that is his spitting image.
I did have some trouble getting my placenta out. It is amazing how tired your body is after birth, it is like you just ran a marathon while standing in place. I finally just imagined pushing and it falling out. It worked even though everything was numb and I couldn’t even feel the sensation of the pushing. It is in the deep freezer now waiting to be dehydrated & encapsulated.
Everything from that evening was pretty much a blur…overall our birthing time was perfect. Little man came out weighting 7.5lbs & measuring a whopping 22″ long. His APGAR Score was 8 at delivery and 5 minutes after he was a 9. He had only minor symptoms of his late arrival. He was very clean when he came out since the vernix had all come off. His skin was a bit cracked on the creases (fixed that right up with olive oil. They also attribute his length to his extra time in the womb. Most babies are between 19″-21″ when born.
So although I did not birth in the water as expected and I almost birthed unassisted, everything was perfect. During my Hypnobabies studies they emphasize that your birthing time will be exactly perfect for you and your baby. If you keep that in mind and remain flexible with your birthing plans everything will go much smoother. I would have loved to be able to tell everyone what it is like to have the baby outside and in the water…I even wanted to have pictures and video but since he came out in 82 minutes from start to finish, none of that happened. All I have is a perfect little angel and a cool birthing story.
In conclusion I would totally recommend a natural home birth as well as the idea of getting to the water tub in time. Hypnobabies was very helpful, I would recommend to everyone that isn’t familiar with meditation. Definitely look into Birth without Fear and just remember how strong and powerful you are!! Good luck & please contact me with any questions or comments…